I'm sure you'll do better as a sculptor than an architect

I am sure many of us complain of how miserable our life's have been, many things might not have worked out as planned, or something unexpected might have happened..... But in most cases we forget to understand that we are the ones responsible for what we are today, well if you are unhappy doing something today, its probably because you are bored of doing it or the fact that you aren't able to advance as fast as you hoped to. But, remember that you chose to do it one day in hope of achieving something.

A superficial look at anything is tempting at first sight, not indulging in it is one part, but say you are really keen on pursuing it, (be it whatever say learning a sport, choosing a profession, aspiring to be someone). The mistake all of us do is that we always tend to see the good things which are associated with it, but we fail to see all the hard work, the effort, time, patience which has one has gone through to be what they are today. The result, right from day one things do not go on as we might have dreamt of or say what we expected, but then it is not that you are the only one going through all this, if you set an ambition, then you should realise that this is Step One of achieving it.

I say this because right from day one, we tend to think that we are going in the wrong direction or rather lead in the wrong direction. It becomes natural for all of us to crib about it because we think that this is not what we are destined for. Say, you do something without an option, you tend to think like a pessimist right from the beginning because you didn't have an option to chose. But say you keep doing it for sometime now and are still unhappy about it, reason being you never really saw yourself doing it. I know people who have felt miserable that they didn't get what they wanted... but then they never had a Plan B or a Plan C for backup. The result they miss out all the fun and experience which they would have otherwise had doing the same thing, you might have actually even started to like what you were doing if not for the attitude with which you started off in the beginning. Without knowing realities we tend to judge things.

Now then, coming back to the topic.... all of us have opportunities, some of us see them others miss them because they weren't bothered to look out for them.

It is like we are thrown into a pool, with someone telling you that "I've been in that water before; I figured out how to do it; I'm sure you will." They also put a little ring around you. Whats that? You also heard someone telling you "You know I'm here whenever you need a little help." But basically, it's illusory; the support's not there. Now, the idea is that you'll figure out how to swim on your own. Smart people manage with the resources available and make it to the other end somehow with all the struggle and small failures they went through. And for people who don't make it, you are now forced to learn the same thing in a smaller pool, and maybe even a kiddie pool, and maybe even take you out of the pool for good. I remember Mrs and Mr. Bachchan replying to a question 'Why they haven't launched their son like many others?', for which they replied 'In that case he would have never known what failure is, and would have never know the pleasure of success, or worse, he could have even blamed the failure on us'. So true..

Moral of the story is that you own your own development.

[P.S. Quite reminded of the story where a father teaches a starving son fishing rather than giving him a fish to eat. The result might be you get the fish anyways, but you could just wish that the one fish lasted your entire life.]